Your attachment style shapes every close relationship. This 9-question quiz reveals your patterns of intimacy and independence—based on decades of research.
Comfortable with intimacy and independence. You trust others and feel worthy of love.
Based on the ECR-RS scale. Validated across cultures. Used in 1000+ research studies.
Based on two dimensions: Anxiety (fear of abandonment) and Avoidance (discomfort with closeness).
Low Anxiety, Low Avoidance
Comfortable with intimacy and independence. Trusts others and feels worthy of love.
High Anxiety, Low Avoidance
Craves closeness but worries about rejection. May need frequent reassurance.
Low Anxiety, High Avoidance
Values independence highly. May suppress emotions and keep partners at arm's length.
High Anxiety, High Avoidance
Wants closeness but fears it. May push-pull in relationships due to conflicting needs.
Think about your romantic relationships or a close relationship that matters to you. Rate how much each statement applies.
See where you fall on the Anxiety-Avoidance grid and learn your primary attachment style with personalized insights.
Have a real conversation with an AI that understands your style. Explore your patterns and path toward earned security.
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth, explains how early relationships shape our patterns in adult love.
Free to take. 9 questions. Results in 3 minutes.
Take the Attachment Quiz